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Spouse:  Frederick Dale King

Children:  Candace M. West
Peggy E. McEldowney
Daniel D. King
Jeffrey King

Grandchildren:  Andrew West
Chris West
Ben West
Stacey Kiing
Set King
Sabrina King
Carrie King
Travis King
Great-Grandchildren
Aerial Marie West
Bailey Blue West
Teagan Bennett West

Parents:  Merle Kenneth Benge and Wilma Graham Benge

Siblings:  Nellie Naomi Lynn
Norma Cooper
Beverly Jean Irwin
Linda Kay Reeves

Grandparents:  None listed
 
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Shirley Ann Benge King

Birth Date: 4/1/1934
Death Date: 7/26/2002
Washington Park North Cemetery
Garden of Resurrection, Section C, Crypt 71D, Level 4

My mother has fought cancer since 1995. I know she worked hard to live but in the end she gracefully let go. I believe she could because let go because she knew things were OK with my health and she finally had some peace over things she never wanted to reveal because she thought we would not love her. She was wrong I loved her for her protection of me and at a time when I needed another connection to her, I had it. She finally knew we were fine with things.A year ago I went with my mother to a funeral. I watched how she struggled to walk and her weakness. I remember telling Lee I would be lucky to have my mother live another year. Today I really feel lucky for the year, a good long goodbye. During that time we became better friends, I learned more about her and our family. We also shared a common thing 'breast cancer'. The hardest thing of all this for me was having cancer and being weak at a time when my parents needed me the most. They worried for me; I worried for them-all of us emotionally dealing with things.I know God gives you moments and trials in your life so you can learn and re-evaluate your life or see a bigger picture. I hope we all have learned some things, I will never see things in the same light again.If there is a silver lining in all this it is what I've learned:I've learned a lot about the people in your life who can forgive, trust, overcome, the ones who love you thru the good and the bad. The ones who hold on a little tighter, when things are not so good.I've learned that your bloodlines show things about who you are and the things you are made of but family is really a state of mind.I've learned that sometimes it's not who you love but in the end who loves you.I learned how much my parents loved me, how much I loved them and in the end how much they loved each other. It was my privilege to help her leave this worldDuring this last year my mom and I felt so fortunate for our friends and family, we are truly blessed. Moments in your LifeThere are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them.Dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy.Always put yourself in others' shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, It probably hurts the other person, too.The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt, those who have searched and those who have tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives.Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with a tear.The brightness future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling, live your life so that when you die, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.Author unknownEmailed from my mother to me June 14, 2002
  Photo Scrapbook
  

Shirley Ann Benge 6-8 years old.



Age 13-14 years old.



Shirley about 18-19 years old.



Shilrey, Jeffrey, Candy and Fred, 1956.



Shirley age 23.



Age 26-27.



1962 Family Picture. (front L to R) Nellie Lynn, Wilma Benge, Merle Benge and Shirley King. (back L to R) Norma Cooper, Linda Reeves, Jean Irvin.



Grandma with the girls.



Fred and Shirley on first cruise, 1975, age 40.



Last picture taken, Father's Day June 16, 2002. Shirley with Teagan West her great-grandson.


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